So, I first want to say that I was pushed to post this as a response to my ex getting a new girlfriend.
Second of all, I am aware that most people, or rather, everyone, has experienced this before. Let's stop pretending that we're unaffected by this. I mean sure, maybe other people truly "get over" a person and completely don't care, but for the most part... Most people simply suppress their emotions toward this. Also, let's stop pretending that we are simply "upset" over "finding out about the new flame". Honestly, it makes it sound so... Unemotional. Apathetic. Almost like a bland article about politics. (I, personally, do not care for politics.)
Let's just stop pretending that it's a stupid cliche, and"I-don't-give-a-BLEEP-about-the-so-called-ex-whose-number-I've-still-remembered".
Perhaps I'm simply a supremely emotionally fragile person. I care. I care very much. I hate the girl, even though I probably don't know her and she's probably a lovely, sweet person. (I mean, my ex obviously has good taste if he's dated me. HA.) I hate him for moving on with his life, when personally I think he should be devasted. Almost to the point of self-destruction.
But I also am not really liking myself for caring this much.
For the past few months, I have slowly been rebuilding myself. I've been becoming more "emotionally stable". (That's the only way to sum it up into words, though really it was much more an in-depth self-evaluation. Deeply philosophical and involved becoming a hermit. However, those two words are the best way to describe it.) This month, in fact, I have felt great. My self-confidence seemed to improve. My entire view of the world and reality seemed to improve, actually.
Until, of course, I spent a few minutes to check my online profile (Facebook, of course. Since that seems to be the entire hub of socialization, these days.) for the first time in A LONG TIME, and I discovered... With horror! That my ex had set his relationship status as "In a relationship with.... *********" (Now, I would like to put out there that I was not cyberstalking, but this instead popped up on my news feed. I'm fairly sure I would not need to reinterate what a "news feed" is, because I imagine that most people reading a blog do happen to know.)
I am much more upset with myself for BEING UPSET about it.
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